There are people who give and just give. They do not expect anything in return. Those people belong to the category of saints. This article is not about them. It is about the other kind of people. People who are worldly, who give but also expect something in return. Some express their expectations others do not. We as normal human beings have the right to think about ourselves.
I look around and feel sorry for the older generation who spent their life being someone but just not themselves. Especially the people from Indian sub continent. My parents and grand parents for example, spent their entire life for their loved ones. They forgot to consider their own needs. Now, in their final stage of life they realize that they missed out so much. Just because they were not able to find a little time for themselves. Some decades from now you don’t want to be among that group, repenting about this little fact of life. At times, we should stop and think about our own happiness. Sometimes, it’s okay to be selfish.
Is it okay to be selfish? How many times did this thought occur to you? Here I am, calling out for the people who are caretakers; responsible for taking care of someone you love. You are responsible for making someone happy and content and you are doing a great job. Now, take a deep breath and look way from computer screen and compliment yourself for the wonderful job you are doing. Take thirty or so seconds to thank yourself on behalf of the people you taking care of. You might be anyone, a mom, a dad, a childcare provider, a teacher or a volunteer helping out seniors. And believe it you deserve this.
Last thirty seconds that you were with yourself, don’t make you a bad or irresponsible person. Morally you have not done anything wrong. Therefore, thinking or doing a little deed of happiness for oneself will not be wrong either. Some simple things like, preparing a cup of tea; sitting back and thinking about nothing; reading few lines from Byron; listening to your favorite song or music; working out or deep breathing, can be effective. Just ten minutes a day but do something that is only for you. It’s a time out for yourself when you do not have to make any compromises or adjustments or impressions.
A realization that you spent your life being a mom, a dad, a husband or a wife but just not yourself might be heartbreaking. It is your life and you deserve a fraction of it to yourself. To give happiness you have to have some for yourself. If you are not happy and content you cannot make others happy. Sometimes do a little thing for yourselves and feel the happiness that’s inside you and then try spreading it among others.